18 Common Ways Parents Make Their Children to Anger

As a parent, I make my children angry more than I care to admit. If you are honest, you do too. So, a couple weeks ago, I disobeyed Ephesians 6:4, a clear command in Scripture. I provoked my second born, Micah, to anger by putting too much pressure on him during wrestling season. As a result, he checked me, and I became defensive and tried to justify my actions. But, I was unsuccessful because I was wrong. This incident got me to thinking about others ways parents provoke their kids to anger.

A few days after our incident, I came across a list that someone gave me that I had tucked away in a folder. I am sure there are more ways, but here are 18 common ways we, as parents, provoke our children to anger.

  1. Placing unrealistic expectations on our children. 1 Corinthians 13:11
  2. Giving our children too much freedom. Proverbs 29:15
  3. Being too strict on our children. James 3:17
  4. Ridiculing our children. Job 17:1-2
  5. Failing to affirm our children. 2 Corinthians 2:6-8
  6. Abusing our children – physically and emotionally. 1 Timothy 3:3; Titus 1:7;
  7. Calling our children names. Ephesians 4:29
  8. Finding fault, constantly, with our children. Job 32:2-3
  9. Disciplining our children in anger. Psalm 6:1; 38:1
  10. Refusing to admit our faults to our children. Matthew 5:22-26; Job 32:2; James 5:16
  11. Being inconsistent with discipline with our children. Ecclesiastes 8:11
  12. Comparing them to siblings or other children. 2 Corinthians 10:12
  13. Yelling at and disrespecting our children in front of others. Matthew 18:15;
  14. Breaking our promises to our children. So, keep your promises, even when it hurts. Matthew 5:37; Colossians 3:9
  15. Failing to listen to our children’s opinions.  Proverbs 18:13, 17
  16. Nurturing marital disharmony and tension before our children (if you are married). So, work on your marriage. Genesis 2:24; Hebrews 12:15
  17. Living a hypocritical life in front of our children – telling them to do one thing and us doing the opposite. So, live your values. Matthew 23:28
  18. Modeling anger in front of our children. So, guard your temper. Proverbs 22:24-25

So, I posted this list not to generate guilt, shame or condemnation, but to reveal our blind spots and make us all more self-aware. And, I hope our self-awareness will lead to greater grace and improvement as parents.

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